I just found out I’m pregnant. I’m only six weeks and this is my first baby. I’ve only been at my job a few months, so I’m nervous to tell my boss the news. I’ve been getting really bad morning sickness, and I feel like it’s impacting my work. I’m rushing to the bathroom several times a day, hoping no one notices.
How can I get through work when I feel so unwell but I’m not ready to share the news? Should I tell my boss early, or is it better to wait? I’ve heard it’s best to wait until the second trimester, but I don’t know how long I can keep this to myself. One colleague noticed that I looked out of sorts and asked if I was okay. Of course I said yes, but felt like I was lying.
I’d also like to understand what questions I should ask about my company’s maternity leave policy so I can plan ahead.
Mother Mable’s response:
There’s no perfect time to tell your employer that you’re pregnant. If you’ve been feeling really ill and it’s affecting your work, you may decide to share the news earlier so you can learn about workplace accommodations that may be available to you. You may also decide to use some of your sick leave on days when you don’t feel well. If there’s someone you trust at work, you can consider opening up to them before you’re ready to tell your boss, so you have someone to support you in the meantime.
To learn more about your workplace rights, the U.S. Department of Labor and the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission have resources that explain pregnancy accommodations, discrimination protections, and leave. You can also check your employee handbook if you’re not ready to talk to HR just yet.
In some cases, you may find comfort in speaking with another employee of your company who has recently gone on maternity leave about their experience. This can be especially helpful if a handbook or policies are unclear. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide when you’re ready to share the news and with whom.